When I upgraded my phone after many years I lost my Instagram account. I tried so hard to get back in to no avail.

I finally gave up and started a new account and did not use my own picture in my profile but chose one from the internet because I was fed up with being hit on by men. Today, someone started following me so I checked out their account and decided that we had enough in common to follow back. Ten minutes later he deluged me with messages that he wanted to date me, we had chemistry, all sorts. I was overwhelmed and annoyed. I told him my profile pic is not me and he was jumping the gun etc and I stopped following him. I also told him I am not over my last relationship.

I cannot win. I love someone who no longer wants me and get hit on by men I have no interest in.

What do I do?

By Chrisssie Morris Brady

I've read poetry since I was nine and have written creatively since I was fourteen (probably long before that). After writing book reviews and social comment, I decided I wanted to write poetry. I have no formal training, but I surround myself with poets and their writing. I am honing my craft.
I have two published collections which I don't feel good about, but have been published by and other publications. I live on the south coast of England with my daughter. I am seriously ill.

4 replies on “Outraged!!!!”

There are so many lonely people in the world seeking someone to share a relationship with, so don’t be too hard on people who seek you out looking for a relationship. Meanwhile, I admire and respect that you are setting boundaries, being kind, and trying not to encourage people when you do not desire a relationship. My mother always used to say women needed to possess “an iron fist in a velvet glove” when it comes to unwanted advances, remembering that men can have hearts as fragile as our own. As to your former relationship, I’m sorry that you have had to experience the pain of a love affair ending. It’s one of the most difficult things I’ve ever lived through and it takes time — healing can’t be rushed. On the other hand, I hope your heart remains open to friendships while you are healing because you seem like such a loving person with so much to offer (and not to worry, I am neither planning on stalking you nor hitting on you — you’re safe with me). For now, lose yourself in your writing and your garden while you heal, while remaining open to new friendships. That’s my advice, since you asked, but whether my advice suits your needs is something only you can determine. (Loved the photo of the sea, by the way. Beautiful.)

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